As many of you are new to the swinging scene, it has been
suggested that perhaps some guidance on contact etiquette would be useful.
Please respond to all e-mails you receive from
Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage
to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to
It does not need to be a long letter, a short note
saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you
do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time"
will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that
I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping
that someone has written back to me.
If you are an escort advertising for business
please advertise only in the escort section. If you are an escort
advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address
from that used for your business. If I am made aware of people being
asked for payment when responding to ads outside the escort area
I will delete the ad.
Always be polite.
Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet their
If you enclose a picture show your face - most people
like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they
like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture,
a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from
the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).
Keep the language clean, match your response to
the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep
contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a
nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
I am sure that I have missed many points,
and that people will help me update this over the next few weeks.